: 'Its Holiday season'
Here are lists of things you need teach your child
at early age.
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1: Warn your girl child never to sit on anyone's
laps no matter the situation including uncles.
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2: Avoid getting dressed in front of your child
once he/she is 2years old.
Learn to excuse yourself.
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3: If you have to hire a house-help, please kindly
take them for *** screening to determine their
*** status, properly interview them and make up
your mind to
treat them well.
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4: Never allow any adult refer to your new born
as 'my wife' or 'my husband'.
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5: Never tempt your husband with your younger
sister. (Else he'd say its her's and the devil's
fault)
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6: Whenever your child goes out to play with
friends, make sure you look for a way to find out
what kind of play they played
together because young people now sexually
abuse themselves.
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7: Never force your child to visit any adult he or
she is not comfortable with and also be
observant if your child becomes too fond of a
particular adult.
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8: Once a very lively child suddenly becomes
withdrawn you might need to patiently ask alot of
questions from your child. If you don't teach your
children
about ***, the society will teach them the wrong
values.
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9: It is always advisable you go through any new
Material like cartoons you just bought for them
before they start seeing it, you may Blue Movie
themselves.
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10: Teach your 3 year old how to wash their
private parts properly and warn them never to
allow anyone touch those areas and that includes
you (remember, charity begins at home and with
you)
11: Once your child complains about a particular
person, don't keep quiet about it Take up the
case and show them you can
defend them always.
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Then make sure they embraces God.
The bible said 'Train up a child in the way he
should go, And when he is old he will not depart
from it.

1»When a woman love you, she will do anything possible to be with you.
2»When a woman loves you, she will sacrifice her happiness to make you smile.
3»When a woman loves you, she will not delay accepting you as a lover, when she haz accepted you,she will show you care and give you attention needed in relationship or marriage.
4»When a woman loves you bro, she will do things that make your friends and you thinks she is throwing herself on you. Bro! She truly lovez you so much, don't take her love for granted.
5»When a woman loves a man, she will call the guy on phone more than the guy calls her everyday.
6»When a woman truly loves a man, she will visit you all the time, calls you, helps you,care and give you attention more than she gives herself and family.
7»When a woman loves a man, she will do what she vows not to do in this life. She will do it for you and for love but women always end up regretting for doing undo things because many men are deceivers and pretenders.
8»When a woman truly loves a man, she will turn down serious men ready to marry her whereby she is not even sure if the guy will marry her in the future. funny_people.
9»When a woman truly loves you, she gonna be romantic, care for you, respect you, encourage and support your dreams in this life, she will do anything possible to assist you achieve it.
10» When a woman truly loves you, she will surely want the best for you, she will not cheat on you or hurt you, she will let everybody know that she loves you, she will be proud of you bro , she will not find it hard to forgive your imperfection but not when you cheated, she will love you sincerely and ready to die because of your love, BRO when she truly loves you,she want nothing but marriage.

Speak truthfully

It’s always better to say the truth now rather than living a lie and letting that lie get exposed later. I know what it feels like to be lied to, it’s not pretty, it’s horrible beyond measure. Honesty should always be one of the main factors of any relationship, and you need to be honest till the end, even if it means you’ll end up losing your relationship, it’s still much better than lying to the person you love, doesn’t matter how big or small the lie is, it’s still a lie and you’re still keeping it from them. Always speak truthfully and from the heart, those who know the importance of honesty will never leave you. Those who care more about themselves will probably walk away, but that’s for your own good.
Don’t disappear
One of the worst ways of breaking up with someone is by disappearing on them, by slowly fading away, don’t do that. You’ll give unwanted torture to someone by being selfish and scared. If you can’t make it work, either talk about fixing it or talk about a mutual breakup, running away is NOT an option. If you respect each other enough, give each other the courtesy of being open and honest about how the relationship is going and where it’s headed. Disappearing from the relationship isn’t going to solve anything, it’s only going to make it harder for both of you.
Don’t let anger take control

90% of breakups turn ugly because of anger, because one of the two people start letting anger take over them and just give in and lose control, don’t let that happen to you. While it’s pretty natural and expected to be angry at a situation like this, it’s highly unhealthy for both of you. I’ve seen a lot of people who talk things out without being angry, anger just ruins the entire point of trying to talk things out, it just wastes every effort and leaves people more angry and upset. Be calm and be gentle and kind with your words, you don’t want to have any negativity and you don’t want to have any regrets later. Trust me, you’ll hate yourself after a few months if you’re the one who got angry at the breakup. It’s a different and peaceful feeling when you know you didn’t lash out and you kept your cool, trust me.

Don’t involve a third person

If you’re thinking of bringing that one best friend and making them a part of this conversation, don’t, just don’t, it’s only going to end horribly for all of you. Keep in mind that it’s your relationship, it involves you and your partner and no one else, you’ve shared intimacy together, you’ve made memories together, you’ve cried and laughed with each other, do NOT ruin all of those things by bringing a third person in the middle, either to make your point heard or to try and fix the situation.

Don’t have mixed feelings, decide

One of the worst things people do to each other is drag the relationship out, to avoid the stress and pain of a breakup, don’t do that. Do not be in a dragged relationship because of emotions, come out of it because you want to be a much better person in life and you know that the relationship you’re in is only having negative effects on the two of you. Don’t have mixed feelings during the breakup, make up your mind once and for all and go with that decision. If you decide to break up, make up your mind about it and do it. If you decide to sort things out, do whatever is necessary to sort things out. Just don’t have mixed feelings about someone.

Don’t announce it, it’s your privacy

Don’t be that person who puts up a Facebook status as soon as their relationship ends, respect your privacy. Of course, you can talk to your close friends about it because you obviously need to share the pain and sorrow with someone, but just don’t announce it to the world. I’m pointing at you – person who changes their Facebook Relationship Status every two months. This is especially bad when the two of you suddenly decide to be together again, the number of questions and explanations you have to give everyone is going to be a pain and people will only make fun of you then. Avoid the pain, keep it to yourselves.
Don’t bring up the past
One of the worst things to do during a breakup is to bring up issues from the past, issues that had long been resolved and don’t even exist anymore, it’s painful. When you bring up even the smallest of issues, it’s going to create a new list of problems and it’s going to make you angry, which is going to lead to a pretty painful breakup with a lot of animosity and hate. Keep it simple, be very precise about how you feel and avoid the past AT ALL COSTS!

Expect it to be unpleasant

Like I said before, breakups are bad, even the word has pain in it, so expect them to be unpleasant. There is no such thing as a “happy breakup”, if you believe in a happy breakup then it means you’ve seen too many movies. Breakups are always going to be sad, even if they’re mutual and the two of you know that you tried your best, there’s still going to be a lot of grief and pain involved.

A real man is not a person who can
impregnate a woman; any guy can also
impregnate a woman. Even a 17 year old boy
can impregnate a woman but that does not
make him a man.
A real man is not a person who is good in
bed. Any idiot can be good in bed.
A real man is not a person who beats his
wife/girlfriend. Infact it is only idiots that
beat their women.
A real man is a person who tolerates his
woman
A real man is a person who controls his
anger
A real man is the person who shows real
care and love to his woman
A real man is the person who knows how
to solve the crises and problems in his
relationship
A real man does not beat his woman
A real man is hardworking. He is not lazy
A real man can endure, persevere and be
patient
A real man can overlook the bad
behaviors of his woman
A real man corrects his woman with love.
Real men make their women happy.
Therefore, ladies, when choosing a man, date
real men only.
Marry real men only. If you are not happy in
your relationship now, that means your guy
is not a real man.!
Look beyond *** and money and go for
happiness and peace of mind.
—Do You Agree???

If a husband and wife don't quarrel or if a
husband and wife have never quarreled
before, then it means that they are not
telling each other the truth. If a boyfriend
has never quarreled with his girlfriend
before, it means they are deceiving each
other. What am trying to say is that two
couples must have a misunderstanding or
quarrel. It is normal. But what is not normal
is malice. I have seen cases where a
husband and his wife don't greet each
other for one week and yet they are living in
the same house. I have seen cases where
husband and wife don't talk to each other
for many days because of a small quarrel
that happened. I have also seen a case
where a man refused to eat his wife's food
because his wife quarreled with him. A
boyfriend will not call his girlfriend for many
weeks because of one little misunderstanding.
Why? Because of ego. Nobody wants to
be the first to apology. This is very bad.
Malice destroys marriage and relationship.
When both of you had a quarrel, do not
nurse the anger for up to 24 hours. If your
partner did not apology, be the first to say
"am sorry" even if you are not at fault. Just
do it for the sake of peace. Two wrongs
cannot make a right. Save your relationship.
Any man who refuses to eat his wife's food
because of a quarrel is a boy. The man is not
mature at all. Malice is childish. Mature
people quarrel and settle and play together
again on that same day. Save your
marriage.
Save your relationship.

Being the best couple is not about
looking awesome together. It is about
how compatible you are together. It’s
not about looking perfect together.
It’s about being perfect for each
other .You don’t need to have
extraordinary glamorous looks but
you need to have extraordinary
passion and love for each other. It’s
not about making others happy when
they see you both together it’s about
being happy when you both are
together. The best couples in the
world are the ones who are madly in
love with each other and who are
strongly determined to make their
relationship work with maturity,
understanding, commitment and
unconditional love.What some of you ladies need to know is, No matter how Fine you are,
No matter how Many OutFits You got,
No matter how smart you are,
No matter how good in bed you are,No Matter How Succesful You Are
No matter how well you **** ****,
Tight *****, Scream, or *******.No Matter How Good You Smell,No Matter How Much You Earn
You Can NEVER Compete With a Girl that a ***** is in Love With..... NEVER

A woman’s job is never done. From sun up to sun down, most women have a ton of things to do along with keeping their man happy in a relationship. It makes a woman feel important and special when you take time to recognize all that she does. A simple,”Thank you for cooking dinner, I really appreciate it”, can put a smile on her face. No woman wants to be in a relationship that she feels invisible in. Recognizing her efforts is the very fuel that can inspire her to keep doing more for you.
She deserves safety and security.Whether you are providing a roof over her head or protection over her heart, every woman needs her safe haven. When a man can give a woman the reassurance that he will do anything to protect her heart, her well being and her spirit, it brings a certain level of peace over her. When a woman feels safe, she feels free. You can’t expect her to continue being your angel if you don’t create a heaven like environment for her to comfortably lay her head in.
She needs to know which certainty that she can trust her life partner.
A man will never reach the depths of a woman’s love if that woman cannot fully trust him. When a woman can lower her guard and love a man without holding anything back, that is truly when that man has earned all of her trust. It takes courage loving a man and sharing things with him that makes her sacred. Everyone doesn’t get to explore those levels of her love. You only reach that level of comfort with a woman when she can fully trust you. Earn her trust and you will tap into things that will inspire you in becoming a better man.
A woman needs to feel desired and loved.
A woman definitely needs two things. She needs to hear how much you love her, and she needs to see how much you love her. Every woman needs to feel like she is special and like she is the only woman in her man’s world. As a man, it is your responsibility to never leave your woman guessing or wondering how much you really do love her. She should be so moved by your love that it radiates off of her when she steps out in public. With most women, the thought and the effort you put into making them smile is truly what matters most. Whether you are planning a surprise dinner or planning to send her surprise flowers, these small things leave the biggest smiles on their heart. Express how much she means to you and how blessed you are to have her in your life. Don’t just say she’s irreplaceable, love her like she is irreplaceable and she will never stray away from you and your love. She deserves a man to be her best friend.
When you feel like you have your best friend in your relationship, that is a sign of a great relationship. Can she confide in you secrets that she has never told anyone? Can she trust that you will listen to her about anything in the world without judging her? Are you a man that she can cry with and laugh with? Being her best friend is like making a secret oath with her. You never share private conversations and private moments with anyone outside of your relationship. Being her best friend means that you will always be able to see the best in her even when she feels the opposite. Being a woman’s best friend is one of the best things that you can do for your relationship.

-.A GIRLkeeps her password on her cellphone, while a WOMAN is confident enough to say “darling can you answer that for me?”!! -.A GIRL has pride after arguments, a WOMAN has heart & emotions. -.A GIRL tells her man all the things he does wrong, a WOMAN acknowledges her man’s hardwork!! -.A GIRL run on the streets & chill with her friends, while a WOMAN enjoys time with her man planning ahead for their future!! -.A GIRL exchange words with her man, a WOMAN keeps quite & listen to her man. -.A GIRL complains about spending too much time with her man, a WOMAN plans vacations & getaways because she is wise enough to notice tomorrow isn’t promised!! -.A GIRL tells her man he is cute, & a WOMAN tells her man he is handsome. -.A GIRL takes her man to the house, & a WOMAN takes her man home. -.A GIRL tells the whole world her heart is broken, & a WOMAN keeps her life in line, with tears in her eyes she still manages to say nah! I am fine. -.A GIRL will read this & think this is about her, & a WOMAN will read this & thoroughly acknowledge what she needs to fix in her relationship

Psychology says, the more loving you are, the more painful it feels when a person fails to realize how much you care for them.
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2. Psychology says, being able to instantly respond with sarcasm within seconds of a stupid question is a sign of a healthy brain.
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3. Psychology says, people usually leave because it's easier than working things out. People lie because sometimes it's easier than being honest.
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4. Psychology says, being angry and bitter destroys you mentally, lowers your IQ & can literally shorten your life.
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5. Psychology says, the person on your mind while you're unable to sleep is usually responsible for your happiness, pain or both.
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6. Psychology says, kissing causes a chemical reaction in the brain which lowers a woman's risk of suffering from depression.
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7. Psychology says, we seem to ignore the ones who adore us & pay more attention to those who ignore us.
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AGREE ??

healthy relationships can never be developed overnight. Conscious efforts, thoughtful gestures, quality time and sacrifices are the keys to become a healthy couple. Developing strong relation with your partner demands effort and time. And to make your relation everlasting, a consistent positive approach is a must.
Healthy couples always keep a positive approach towards their relation with each other. Healthy couples build their relationship with everyday efforts. They agree to the fact that relationships need regular nurturing.
At times we get caught in the negative spur of everyday life. We are having problems at job, finances are failing, kids are sick, arguments with colleagues and many such turmoils of daily life influence our emotions and ultimately our relationships.
Healthy couples always focus on the positive qualities of the partner in rough times. Whenever you are frustrated, make a conscious effort to focus on the things you admire and appreciate about your spouse.

Respect is an integral part of every relationship and it makes every relationship mature and long-lasting. Respect is what takes relationships to the next step and helps them grow. Real men know how to respect their partners, they know of the level of respect their partners deserve and they never forget it regardless of how they feel. Real men give a lot of importance to respect and this is one of the reasons why they never cheat, they just cannot disrespect their partners.

7. Real men don’t do flings

Real men look for serious relationships. They aren’t looking for one night stands, they look for partners who would hold their hand through life, who would be with them through thick and thin and who would support them during the best and the worst of times. Flings are for boys and immature men, who just don’t want to settle down or think the idea of settling down with one partner is just too boring. Real men, on the other hand, take their relationships very seriously.

6. Real men don’t want to live a lie

When someone is a cheater, they tend to lie a lot. Cheaters have to think of a thousand scenarios to cover their tracks and they have to lie on a lot of occasions. Real men just don’t want to live a lie all their lives, they can’t be unjust and untrue towards their partners and they like to tell them everything. I tell my girlfriend everything about my past because I want complete transparency, and I don’t hide anything from her even if telling her something would result in a fight. It’s better to tell the truth and get what’s coming than to lie and wait for something to come when it’s too late.

5. Real men can control themselves

Real men have enough will power to control themselves. Being a “one-woman-man” is not a thing of the past. Real men don’t have the urge to be physical with someone else because they’re happy enough with their partners. Real men know that the value of lust is not more than love and lust goes away after a while but love stays.

4. Real men can’t think of hurting their partners

Like I talk in the beginning, real men respect their partners. They can never think of intentionally hurting their partners. When someone cheats, they actually break the person who was in love with them. They break every fibre of trust their partners had in them and they cause a lot of trauma. Real men can never think of making their partners go through so much negativity and darkness and can never hurt their partners by being with someone else behind their backs.

3. Real men can’t juggle

I’ve seen a lot of guys who juggle two women at once, I don’t get how they do it. It’s emotionally impossible for me to imagine being with two girls at once, to be with two women and keep them in the dark. How can people play with someone’s feelings like that? To make each partner think they truly love them while telling the other partner the very same thing? This is something real men can’t do, they just can’t and won’t juggle. They’re happy with one woman who loves them.



2. Real men have the power to break up

One of the reasons why people cheat is when they aren’t happy with their partners and they want to see other people. And most of the time, they are too scared to break up. This is what real men don’t do, real men know when it’s time to break up with someone when things aren’t going well. They know that it’s much better to leave someone than to cheat on them or to lie to them, it’s another way of showing them respect by being completely honest with them.
1. Real men know what’s more important in life

The emotions, the feelings, the love, the memories, there are so many things that matter in life and are important. Real men know the importance of these things and know that staying loyal with their partners is more important than to go look for other people to have flings with. We are emotional, we cry, we laugh, we don’t have any ulterior motives in our minds, we just want to enjoy our lives with the people we love.



Any real men out there?

How many real men are reading this article? Or how many women can agree to this? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

When A Man Loves A Woman, He Will.
Let us end this weekend by talking about the love between a man and a woman. To the ladies who often ask, “How do I truly know a man loves me?” this is for you. When a man loves a woman, he will never cheat on her. Never! He will find other women that throw themselves at him repulsive, however beautiful, they might be. That does not mean he has to profess a zillion times in a day how much he loves you. A man who does that is often a player.
Talk is cheap. To a man who loves, actions speak louder than thunder, even in his subtlety! If you are an intuitive woman, you will know how much you are loved without even hearing the “three magical words.” There will be love in the way he looks in those lovely eyes of yours, in the way he holds your hands, in the tenderness of his text messages, in the attention he gives you, and in the care he takes in choosing the gifts he give you, and in the way he speaks to you.
It is widely acknowledged that men love ***. If a man says he does not love ***, he is a shameless liar or a capon. God, we love ***! Yet, paradoxically, when a man truly loves a woman, *** with her is the last thing on his mind. His interest in her is holistic, not just the apple she has to offer. He wants you for the rest of his life, and his single preoccupation from the moment he meets you, will be to put a ring on your finger so you can carry his name as Mrs…(Insert your man’s name) as a badge of honour.
A man who truly loves you knows you meticulously. He knows what puts a smile on those rosy lips of yours. He knows what to say and what to do both in the good and bad times. He knows your kind of music or your kind of book. If you are a chocolate lady, he knows your kind of chocolate, if you are the romantic type he knows when to take you for moonlight strolls. Basically he will love you like you have never been loved before.
In all, a man who loves you will do anything. I mean ANYTHING for the woman he loves.

"1)..You take your girlfrend. An go
clubbing,after you marry her you want to
stop her from clubbing.....my brother,you
think a miracle will happen??
2)...You have 8 tribal marks ,stretch marks
scattered all over your body,but you still
want tatoos......aahh my frend,are you a
zebra??
3)...You be 6 feet tall,you still wear 6 inch
high heels..my sister,you want to whisper to
God??
4)....You take pictures inside different types
of cars,yet you go say you are not a
cheater..aunty, are you a mechanic??
5)..You gather different pictures of girls in
your phone and you go expect your girl to
believe you are not cheating..abeg uncle,areyou a photographer??
6)...He gave you an engagement ring for over
5years but he never married you..my
dear,are you lord of the rings?
7)...You claim you ate pizza but you go *****
Polony and vetkoek..my friend,are you. a
magician??
8)...Your girl be licking ice cream but you be
drinking pure water.,.my friend,are you
diabetic??
9)..You are 18 years old and your sugar
daddy be 70 years old and you go call him
baby..aahh my sister,that one should be your
ancestor"

fore you guys start reading this, I would like to give you a brief overview of what it’s about. First of all,  I think it’s extremely unhealthy and can only lead to bad things even when you’re in the happiest of relationships. A week ago, I received a very detailed message in the page’s inbox, the first words were “My Confession”. It was from a man who wanted to share his mental weight with someone, anyone. So I started reading it, and it made me tear up after each line. This is about a man (who wishes to remain anonymous), a man who spied on his girlfriend because of his insecurities and trust issues, but the way it ends is just brutal. I’ve edited a few parts out, parts that were a little too much to handle. Believe me, editing this entire piece wasn’t easy, but the guy wanted it published, he wanted to world to see the dark side of relationships, and so here it is. I hope you guys have an easier time reading it than I did while editing it. It’s going to be in his own words, exactly how he sent it (with a few parts cut out because of certain restrictions).

My Confession: I spied on my girlfriend for a month, she’s my ex now

Hey “A” and “Z”, I’ve been an avid fan of yours for over two years now. I just LOVE the way you talk about relationships and how pure they are, it kind of burns my heart sometimes because I never received that purity, all I got was trauma and hatred out of love. I don’t know you guys personally but I love your work and I know you guys help people out too while keeping things anonymous. I would like to send in my confession, confession of spying on my girlfriend for a month. This wasn’t easy, writing all of this down just reminded me of what I went through, but I badly want to share it with someone. I actually want the world to know that relationships aren’t all “happy and nice”, some relationships are straight up brutal! While I gave it my all, it just wasn’t enough, and I had to find the truth through different means, means I’m not proud of today but I’m at a better place knowing that I’m not being made a fool of anymore.

Her name was *. We met through work, she used to work in the same place as I. We started off being very normal friends. Slowly but surely, our conversations started becoming meaningful, they went from being “just about work” to “about life”. This is where she started showing me her weak side, and it was pretty weak. I believe that when a woman shows you her vulnerabilities, she wants you to be in her life. And after a few months, I started having feelings for her, they just kind of developed on their own. I started noticing the increase in the number of calls, messages, hangouts etc. It was all happening so naturally and I was falling deeper in love with her. At this point, I was still too afraid to ask her out because we had a good friendship going and I didn’t want to ruin it. But this had its toll on me, I started getting possessive about her, it started bothering me. She used to have this other friend at work, he was better looking than I was, and I’d always been pretty insecure about my looks, so I started creating a distance from her and thought she’d be better off without me (yeah, I’m pretty pessimistic about myself).

After a few days, she noticed the change in the way I talk to her and she started complaining. That’s when she showed me the first sign of “having feelings” for me. That’s when I realised that I stand a chance and I shouldn’t be afraid. So, after a lot of hours of overthinking, I asked her out. To my surprise, she said yes instantly! I was over the roof! I can’t even describe the feeling in words, I just can’t. I was euphoric, I hadn’t felt such happiness before in my life. To be accepted by someone you have feelings for is a huge feeling, more than words can describe. So we started going out. Our entire office knew about our relationship, even the “good looking guy” (keep him in mind, he is important to this). We were crazy together! Exactly how you guys describe “good and healthy relationships” in your articles and page, we were exactly like that. We used to read your articles together and tell each other how happy we are and how many good qualities match.

Things were going pretty good for us. We used to have our usual fights and arguments, but they were pretty simple and used to sort of fix themselves. It was heaven for me, I’m not kidding, heaven. It was surreal. Even after 7 months of dating, we never got bored of each other. Things were just awesome. Except for one thing, she had a habit of using her phone a lot, even when we were hanging out, she used her phone 90% of the time in intervals. I used to complain about it from time to time but it never used to work. Technology these days, it can work both ways, for both good and evil. With apps like Snapchat, Whatsapp etc. you can basically do anything with anyone without the world knowing about it, it’s that scary.



I slowly started getting paranoid when I noticed that she’s online on Whatsapp even after we are done talking and we’ve said our “goodnights” and “I love yous”. Her “Last Seen” was off so I never knew when she was actually sleeping. I never discussed this with her but I spoke to a friend about it. He said it’s nothing. He said that it’s probably a bug that shows the wrong status of being online. And I wanted to believe that, so I trusted in that statement and let it go. But deep down, my paranoia was still growing more every day. But believe me, I tried fighting it as much as I could. I even started getting “busy” tones more often when I called her. She used to tell me she was talking to her brother (who lived in another state). And I used to try to believe her.

One day, it happened. We were out for dinner and she had gone to the bathroom, this time she didn’t take her phone with her (she always used to take it with her). My heart started racing because I badly wanted to have a look inside that phone, I wanted to see if something was being hidden from me, If I was being lied to. But I also didn’t want to be more paranoid, so I tried fighting myself. But after a few seconds, I justified it in my head. I told myself that I’m probably not going to find anything, and then I’m probably going to be mad at myself for looking and it’ll all go smoothly. It didn’t go that way. I opened her phone up (it didn’t have a passcode on it), and I went straight to Whatsapp. I found a very long and intimate conversation she was having with the same good looking guy from the office. It went on and on, in great detail. They used to meet up, she used to go over to his place (while I was told that she’s going over to a friend’s house). It was all there, right in my hands, a year’s worth of relationship down the drain. A year’s worth of feelings down the drain. It was bad, my hands were shaking and I couldn’t feel anything for a few minutes. But I wanted to catch her cheating, so I got a grip of myself, held my tears and put the phone back.

And that’s when I started “spying” on her. I used to be very aware of what she was saying, of where she’s going etc. I was heartbroken but I tried my best to be the same in front of her, to not show any sign of sorrow or regret but it was killing me inside to not push her out of my life. It was disgusting. One fine day, she told me she was going to her “friend’s” house. And I actually followed her in a friend’s car. I followed her all the way to the house. It was the same house, the house I was hoping it not to be. The guy’s house, the good looking guy. After ten minutes of waiting outside, I went and knocked at the door. It was him, with a very weird smile on his face, as he looked at me in a state of shock. I forced myself inside (at this point I wasn’t even feeling normal anymore, I was filled with rage) and saw her in his bedroom. I just stood there, looking at her in silence, the tears started flowing right out in front of her and I left, without saying a word. I instantly blocked her from every possible means of communication. She tried contacting my friends, but none of them let her get near me.

It’s been five months since that incident, and I still have a lot of questions that I need answers to, but I just don’t want to spend another minute with her, I just don’t want to waste another feeling on her. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to love again, but I surely won’t let anyone play me for a fool again. So, for everyone who’s reading this, please don’t let your feelings go to someone who doesn’t deserve them. Please don’t get cheated on. And for those who have similar experiences, you’re not alone.

Thank you guys for reading this, I would be very happy if you posted this on your website, I really want to know what people have to say about this. Thank you.

Talk to me

If you guys have anything to say to him, please let him know in the comments below, he is going to read them all. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive.

this is for people in broken relationships. Relationships that stand on such weak grounds that you don’t really know if you should give this another try or get out of it. A broken relationship is like a deep wound that is a result of constant blows to your soul and heart, unintentionally and at times, intentionally. It is a hard decision but don’t ever give up unless you’ve tried to make it work from every way possible because you don’t want that guilt to linger on after you have broken up. At times many relationships are fragile just because that’s the way they are. It could be a union of two extremely sensitive people or two extremely strong-headed people. So, at times, a few little changes can help you save that relationship.
4. REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON YOU FIRST FELL IN LOVE WITH
You and your partner were not always like this. Remind yourself of the way your partner was, the way you fell in love with them. Over the period of time, small things condition us to adapt and change. Remember, these changes are a result of incidents and external factors in your relationship. Find that faith in your partner again. Believe that there is still the same amount of goodness and love in your partner than when you first met them.
3. STOP FIGHTING, START FORGIVING
You have been fighting for so long and nothing good or positive has come out of it, ever. Your relationship has just gotten worse. All those bad words, hurtful statements and raised voices will only act as those blows that I was talking about. It’s time you stop all of that. Now that you are trying to find the same faith in your partner, forgive them. Know that your partner didn’t mean to hurt you. It’s time you forgive them for hurting you so you can actually work on the things that have damaged to your relationship.
2. IT’S TIME TO COMMUNICATE
Most of us in relationships don’t realise that many issues can be resolved with the right kind of communication. The right kind of communication is when you keep all of your other issues afar from the current situation and address the problem in simple words. Remember not to use a statement that, you know, might offend your partner. Another important action that needs to come into play is to show support. Whether you agree at first or not. Have the patience and courtesy to listen to your partner, even if they are wrong, hear them out and then clear things. Most fights are usually just simple misunderstandings that develop into bigger and badder things.
1. COMMIT YOURSELF AGAIN
Reassure your partner that you still love them. No one in this world can tell your partner how much you love them. Not their friends, not your friends and not even this article. The only person who has the power to reassure this to your partner is YOU. Tell them that you are ready to let go of the things they did to you and ask for forgiveness for the things you did to them. There is no ego when you love someone. Don’t think that asking for forgiveness makes your point any less important. When you forgive your partner and ask for forgiveness, you are allowing them to let go of the things they have been holding on to.

In the end, try and find the spark and the love you both had in the beginning of your relationship. Trust me, it is not that hard if you put your mind to it. We have all been there, I have been there and I eventually learned the hard way so I know its easier said than done. But, Hey! It’s worth a try, your relationship is worth a try.
Have you been in a broken relationship?
If yes, how did you come out of it? Did you manage to fix it and bring it back to what it used to be? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

22 WAYS ON HOW TO KEEP A RELATIONSHIP
1. Build trust
2. Be honest
3. Be faithful
4. Be considerate
5. Respect each other
6. Become best friends
7. Be proud of one another
8. Be there for one another
9. Bear each other’s burden
10. Make time for one another
11. Communicate to each other
12. Trust and always pray to God
13. Accept each other’s mistakes
14. Appreciate each other’s effort
15. Take time and study each other
16. Love each other
unconditionally
17. Refresh your love with surprises
18. Talk about things, both good and bad
19. Know that you won’t always be happy
20. Know that having arguments are normal
21. Forgive and forget each other’s mistakes
22. Leave the past to the past, which
include ex’s.

this is for people in broken relationships. Relationships that stand on such weak grounds that you don’t really know if you should give this another try or get out of it. A broken relationship is like a deep wound that is a result of constant blows to your soul and heart, unintentionally and at times, intentionally. It is a hard decision but don’t ever give up unless you’ve tried to make it work from every way possible because you don’t want that guilt to linger on after you have broken up. At times many relationships are fragile just because that’s the way they are. It could be a union of two extremely sensitive people or two extremely strong-headed people. So, at times, a few little changes can help you save that relationship.
4. REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON YOU FIRST FELL IN LOVE WITH
You and your partner were not always like this. Remind yourself of the way your partner was, the way you fell in love with them. Over the period of time, small things condition us to adapt and change. Remember, these changes are a result of incidents and external factors in your relationship. Find that faith in your partner again. Believe that there is still the same amount of goodness and love in your partner than when you first met them.
3. STOP FIGHTING, START FORGIVING
You have been fighting for so long and nothing good or positive has come out of it, ever. Your relationship has just gotten worse. All those bad words, hurtful statements and raised voices will only act as those blows that I was talking about. It’s time you stop all of that. Now that you are trying to find the same faith in your partner, forgive them. Know that your partner didn’t mean to hurt you. It’s time you forgive them for hurting you so you can actually work on the things that have damaged to your relationship.
2. IT’S TIME TO COMMUNICATE
Most of us in relationships don’t realise that many issues can be resolved with the right kind of communication. The right kind of communication is when you keep all of your other issues afar from the current situation and address the problem in simple words. Remember not to use a statement that, you know, might offend your partner. Another important action that needs to come into play is to show support. Whether you agree at first or not. Have the patience and courtesy to listen to your partner, even if they are wrong, hear them out and then clear things. Most fights are usually just simple misunderstandings that develop into bigger and badder things.
1. COMMIT YOURSELF AGAIN
Reassure your partner that you still love them. No one in this world can tell your partner how much you love them. Not their friends, not your friends and not even this article. The only person who has the power to reassure this to your partner is YOU. Tell them that you are ready to let go of the things they did to you and ask for forgiveness for the things you did to them. There is no ego when you love someone. Don’t think that asking for forgiveness makes your point any less important. When you forgive your partner and ask for forgiveness, you are allowing them to let go of the things they have been holding on to.

In the end, try and find the spark and the love you both had in the beginning of your relationship. Trust me, it is not that hard if you put your mind to it. We have all been there, I have been there and I eventually learned the hard way so I know its easier said than done. But, Hey! It’s worth a try, your relationship is worth a try.
Have you been in a broken relationship?
If yes, how did you come out of it? Did you manage to fix it and bring it back to what it used to be? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

i heard you like bad boys,those guys who act like they don't care about you'which is making you try harder to make them like you,those guys who wouldn't reply to your text until later on,which makes u wait around and miss him more,those guys who act distance from you,which is makes you try harder to get their attention.those guys who know they can get lot of girls which makes you more afraid to lose them,those guys who would show you they're interested on day then act different the next day which make you confused to take the decision to leave him.those guys who can make you fall for them but they can care less,which is making you stuck and not able to move on cause you care too much,has anyone told you that you deserve better than that.you probably have and you know what?its about time you realize that.if a guy likes you he'll meet you half way simple as that.don't settle for a bad boy when you deserve a good man

sincerely
the guy that cares

every woman out there wants to be with a guy who treats her right, showers her with love and would do anything just to see her smile. A gentleman would be perfect for that. Being a gentleman is about so much more than just opening doors and sweet talk. He could be doing all those things just for one reason. Being a gentleman is more about character and integrity. He’s someone who’s above everything else, a decent human being. He treats everyone with the respect they deserve, and is especially considerate of his girl, in every regard.

Let’s look at the 4 signs of a true gentleman;

4. All women are honorable for him

The women in his family, at work, his friends, his girlfriend or even the women he doesn’t know all that well. Each one of them is respectable for him, in different capacities, but respectable all the same. He’d never do anything to disgrace them or hurt them in any way. He acknowledges their worth and appreciates them for what they all add to his life. He’d treat his girl a little differently, but holds all women in high regard, in spite of how he may be related to them.



3. He constantly reminds women of their true value

Simply put, he’s anything but a chauvinist. He doesn’t merely claim to think highly of women, but proves it time and again as well. With everyone trying to bring women down, he’s the one who truly believes that they ought to be treated better, and does so himself.


2. He prefers intelligence over power

He knows the kind of woman he wants. While some of them may want to be with him for his money or status, he’d never settle for someone with superficial precedence. He thinks intellect is something that can help you even where power fails you. And he’d appreciate someone who shares a similar view. He chooses his company wisely. His circle would be comprised of people who challenge him and inspire him to be his best and add to his wisdom.

1. He is good with money

Handling money can be tricky. If he doesn’t go overboard with his spending and is careful with his funds, he’s definitely dependable. The source of income and his spending habits should be noted. How, where and who does he spend it on?



To sum up, a true gentleman is reliable in every imaginable way; ranging from being emotionally reliable to financially reliable. He’d be the living example of everything a woman could ask for. He upholds his values, respects everyone equally, is considerate of other people and is never selfish.

What is your definition of a true gentleman? Have you found him yet? Does he have any additional qualities? Looking forward to your input.

You are 25 and still a ******, much
respect... But don't judge those
who are not... You are 18 and
pregnant, I still respect you... You
had an abortion, who am I to judge!!
You had your reasons..and I
respect you!! You are single.. Your
choice and I respect that.. You are
H.I.V positive... I don't know how
you got it!! (You might have been
*****) so who am I to judge.. I
respect you.. You are Gay/Lesbian I
respect U for who U are.. I respect
everyone irrespective of their
situation.. Why judge someone
because of their past/choice, no
one knows what your future holds..
No one is perfect. We were all born
to make mistakes.. Life doesn't
come with an instruction manual
but we must learn from our
mistakes or others mistakes.....

A little boy asked his mother, " Why are you crying?" " Because I'm a woman, " she told him. "I don't understand," he said. His mum just hugged him and said " And you will never will". . Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mum seem to cry for no reason?" "All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say. . The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. . Finally he put in a call to God. When God got to the phone, he asked, "God, why do women cry so easily?" God said, "When I made the woman she had to be special. . I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. . I give her inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times come from her children. . I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. . . I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. . I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. . And finally, I gave her tears to shed. . This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed. "You see my son," said God, "The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or he way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides. . RESPECT WOMEN.

You can sleep well.
2. You can save time and money.
3. No worries about how you look.
4. No miss calls in the midnight.
5. No need to recharge more than twice a day.
6. You can talk to all boys/girls.
7. You can eat well
8. No scoldings from parents/
guardians.
9. Can eat in any restaurant.
10. You can visit any body.
11. can pick any call, any time without being
questioned.
12. Don't worry about missed
calls.
13. You will have 100% rest of
mind.
14. you will live a long life.
NOTE:- LOVE is a beautiful things,
fall in love with one who takes
you as a priority not to one that takes you as an
option.
Any man/ woman that doesn't give you LOVE, CARE
and ATTENTION is not worth to be with.
TRUE or FALSE ??...

..
....* No1: A man was so jealous of his newly born baby that he put poison on the wife's ******* while she was asleep. The next day their driver died of poisoning.
***********
....No2: A man is dying of cancer, but keeps telling people he is dying of AIDS. His son asked his Dad why. He answered, "so that when I am dead, no one will sleep with your mum."
***********
..... No3: A lady lost three ******* in her house and blamed her maid in front of the husband. Maid said "sir. you are my witness you know I never wear *******!"
***********
...... No4: Couple is having a quickie and their 6 year old catches them. Son says: "What are you doing?" Ask the son. Father: "I’m putting petrol in your Mom." Son: " Which means Mom’s engine is taking too much petrol cause Mr. Zwane just put some in yesterday!" Mother fainted!!!!
***********
...... No5: A man went to the pub with his wife. When he left for the counter to buy drinks a ******* approached his wife & whispered, "You must DEMAND cash before ***, I know him he doesn't pay.
***********
....... No6: An 8 year old boy is accused of ****. In court his lady lawyer holds his **** out as evidence saying, "Your Honour see this, can he ***** with this tiny tot?"The boy whispers, "Don't shake it, we'll lose the case!"

"You had *** with her on a first date?".
> I don't care,you are just her ex and now she's with me.
• "She's not beautiful, she is fat and she has stretch marks".
> well , To me she is perfect & that's what matters.. You can talk.
• "She used to date this other sugar daddy and she has many ex's".
> Thats her past and I dont care
about that because now I'm her only guy.
• "She had an abortion while she was in High School."
> look She had her own reasons, so thats none of your business and I wont dump her for what she
did in the past.
• "She used to go clubbing a lot, with the guys."
> so what!! you think she is a bi*? well she's my girlfriend
now.
•"She got pregnant when she was 17, what a shame"
> look, you dont know her story,Stop judging other people as
if your life is perfect.
Moral: 1. never judge anyone by their past activities.
2. Never let anyone's opinion stop you from dating the person who makes you happy.
3. stop letting people make you feel ashamed of your scars. –
4. Scars remind us that our past is real, and that we have grown beyond it. Every scar has a story.
5. Don’t be afraid to tell it and own it.
6. Stop letting people use your past to poison your present. –
7. Life is too short to tirelessly struggle with old news and
those who refuse to let it go.
8. Some people cannot stand that
you’re moving on with your life and so they will try to drag
your past to catch up with you.
No matter what, people will always talk.
Anyway Let them Talk my love i don't care ngithanda wena wedwa.
as long as she/he loves you let them talk is yours they have they don't want to see people happy cause they are not happy in their relationship.

Sometimes it’s better to move on than to hold on to a person who doesn’t understand you. Sometimes your absence will teach what your presence cannot...
Hey you, Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work. You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.
I’ll be real with you, sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without. You have got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.
Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it you. And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they’re not that person anymore. And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME
It is better to be alone and be happy than to be in a miserable relationship...
Whoever sees you as an option doesn't deserve to be a priority in your life, you call him honey but he treats you like a monkey, He is your everything but you are nothing to him, you are doing everything to make it work, but he keeps thinking you are desperate and turns all your efforts to weakness...
Never keep awake thinking
about someone who is
deeply sleeping with
someone else.
Never stay a minute
thinking about someone who cant spend a
second
thinking about you.
Leave that person who
takes your love for granted
and doesnt love you back
the way you do,
Love should be balanced
not based one side.
Its better to be single than
being in an ugly
relationship that will make
you cry forever.

LOVE SHOULD BE SHARED NOT
FORCED:
We must keep in mind that we
cannot force anyone To love us
the way we want. We should not
beg someone to stay when they
want to leave. That is what love
is All about FREEDOM. Moreover,
the end of LOVE is not The end
of LIFE. It should be the
beginning of an understanding
that LOVE SOMETIMES LEAVES FOR
A REASON, BUT NEVER LEAVES
WITHOUT A LESSON.
If someone truly loves you, they
will never give you a reason to
doubt it. Anyone can come into
your life and say how much they
love you, but it takes someone
really special to stay in your life
and prove how much they LOVE
YOU.
Sometimes it takes a while to
find The right person, but the
right person is always worth
The wait. Do NOT rush my friend,
just take it slow. You will find
someone who will love you the
way you are... Just be patient
and cry no more!.

Appreciation is the key ingredient to cultivate healthy relationships. Healthy couples always appreciate each other in day-to-day life to show their commitment and love. They never miss an opportunity to give a loving appreciating remark to their partners.

Always Stay In Touch:

Healthy couples maintain their contact no matter how busy their schedules are. In our busy lives an unexpected text message, an admiring note or a phone call can have much deeper effects than we can realize.
Healthy couples always maintain their loving connection and don’t allow distances and busy routines to part them.
Being Happy is Their Priority:
For healthy couples being happy is much more important than being right. Leaving their egos behind they always strive to discover solutions. Instead of playing the blame game they choose compromise and compassion.

They Sleep Together:
Leave your arguments and battles behind before your crawl into bed. There are arguments and tensions but never take them with you to bed. Leave your negative emotions and anger behind.
Healthy couples suggest to always tell your partner that you love them before you go to sleep and this is especially applicable to the nights when u have an argument. A simple hug and a smile can result in sudden release of tension between couples.
Being Intimate:
Being intimate is essential to keep your relation alive. Healthy couples maintain their intimacy to prove that they cherish their relationship. Preserving your physical relation is vital for establishing healthy relation as a couple.

Being Patient And Respectful Towards Each Other:

No one is perfect. Even the healthiest couples are just two imperfect human beings. Being a perfect couple doesn’t mean that they are perfect in every way, in reality it is accepting and being patient to each other’s imperfections.

Healthy couples are always respectful towards each other’s shortcomings and they compliment limitations of their partner in a way that they look perfect as a couple.

Husbands and Boyfriends:
The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is
taking good care of them.
Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of
drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly.
Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.
Remember,
women have been through alot, ****, monthly flow with pains, pregnancy and child birth, treat
them with respect,they are our helpmate not housemaid!

Distance is just a test to see how far LOVE can
travel
Some people come into our lives and quickly go.
Others stay for a while leaving footprints on our
hearts, and we are forever changed.
The worst feeling in the world is when you can’t
love anyone else, because your heart still belongs
to the one who broke it.
SOMETIMES, it is better to be alone than to be in
a relationship with someone who doesn't return
your love or appreciate your effort, Someone who
takes you for granted
When a relationship ends, what hurts more is not
the end of
it, but the way we have to behave as strangers
Music speaks when words can't express your
feelings.
You never know how strong you are until being
strong is the only choice you have.
Cheer up you will find True Love at the right time.
.
A lot of people don’t understand what real love is. Anyone can buy flowers, candy and jewelry.
The truly meaningful things in life are those little things you do every day to show you care, and that you’re thinking of them. It’s going out of your way to make them happy. The way you hold her hand when you know she’s scared, or you save the last piece of cake for him.
The random text or call in the middle of the day, just to say “I love you” or “I miss you”.
The way he stops to kiss you when he passes by. It’s dedicating her favorite song to her, and letting her eat your fries; telling her she’s beautiful. It’s
putting your favorite show on pause so she can tell you about her day, and laughing at his jokes, even the really lame ones. It’s slow dancing in the kitchen and kissing in the rain. Love isn't about buying, it’s about giving.

.
1. When you fall in love, make sure it's with
somebody who treats you exactly how you
deserve to be treated.
.
2. Love somebody who wants to know everything
about you, from your favourite colour to your
childhood memories how you managed to survive
all those years.
.
3. Love somebody who can make you laugh, who
kisses your forehead and who notices all your
flaws but choses to see past them.
.
4. Love somebody who listens to whatever is on
your mind,who protects you and alwayz reminds
you how blessed they are to have found you.
.
5. Love somebody who you can't stay mad at for
more than an hour because you miss speaking to
them, who knows every freckle on your face,
every stretch mark on your thighs, every scar and
every tear.
.
6. Love somebody who you can plan your future
with,and most importantly love somebody who is
God fearing.
.
7. And lastly dont forget to make them feel loved
in return .
.
*If you agree with those 7 reasons i have listed above, Share to your friends.

one mistake can change everything. Sometimes apologies just don’t cut it and some things cannot be fixed, no matter what you do. Such is the frailty of relationships. You may be willing to overlook a million things, but at the same time that one little mistake just might be the end of things.

Relationships don’t come with a guarantee to last. Its how much work you put into it that determines the relationship’s fate. Of course there are going to be a few slips every now and then, but some of these mistakes are avoidable.

Let’s look at the most frequent mistakes made in relationships. Try steering clear of them;

Failing to keep your tempers in check

When we’re being excessively ‘expressive’ with our opinions and feelings with this person; we become completely oblivious to their feelings. We think it’s justified to be hurtful (intentionally or unintentionally), just because you’re supposed to share everything with them. Even if you have to be honest with each other, don’t be cruel. This is someone you love, don’t ever forget that. If either of you is getting worked up, take a break and get back to it later. Don’t make it a habit to lash out on each other, it gives way to resentment.



Allowing communication gaps to create problems

People often tend to forget the importance of communication in a relationship. How else do you share anything at all with each other? Never stop communicating with each other, especially when things get tough. The silent treatment is never a good idea; it may actually worsen the situation.

Communication allows you to stay connected to each other. You can share your feelings, your fears, your dreams and what not. This is how you learn about and understand each other. Inadequate communication creates distance and misunderstandings that could easily be avoided.

Q: What is the difference between
riding
a bicycle and a woman?
A: Riding a bicycle you fix your *** &
move your legs, riding a woman you
fix
your legs & move your ***.
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Q: What three things are common
between the sun and woman's
underwear?
A: Both are hot, both look better
while
going down and both disappear at
night.
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Q: What is the closest thing similar to
a
woman's period?
A: Your salary, it comes once a
month
lasts about 5-7 days and if it doesn't
come means you are *******.
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7 qualities of a perfect wife:
Beautiful
Responsible
Energetic
Adorable
Sweet
Truthful and
Self-Organized.
In short, she must have good
B.R.E.A.S.T.S
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­Q: Who is a gynecologist?
A: He is the only fool on the earth
who
looks for problems in a place, where
most people find pleasure.
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Q: What is the similarity between men
and rats?
A: Both keep searching for new
HOLES.

this is for people in broken relationships. Relationships that stand on such weak grounds that you don’t really know if you should give this another try or get out of it. A broken relationship is like a deep wound that is a result of constant blows to your soul and heart, unintentionally and at times, intentionally. It is a hard decision but don’t ever give up unless you’ve tried to make it work from every way possible because you don’t want that guilt to linger on after you have broken up. At times many relationships are fragile just because that’s the way they are. It could be a union of two extremely sensitive people or two extremely strong-headed people. So, at times, a few little changes can help you save that relationship.
4. REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON YOU FIRST FELL IN LOVE WITH
You and your partner were not always like this. Remind yourself of the way your partner was, the way you fell in love with them. Over the period of time, small things condition us to adapt and change. Remember, these changes are a result of incidents and external factors in your relationship. Find that faith in your partner again. Believe that there is still the same amount of goodness and love in your partner than when you first met them.
3. STOP FIGHTING, START FORGIVING
You have been fighting for so long and nothing good or positive has come out of it, ever. Your relationship has just gotten worse. All those bad words, hurtful statements and raised voices will only act as those blows that I was talking about. It’s time you stop all of that. Now that you are trying to find the same faith in your partner, forgive them. Know that your partner didn’t mean to hurt you. It’s time you forgive them for hurting you so you can actually work on the things that have damaged to your relationship.
2. IT’S TIME TO COMMUNICATE
Most of us in relationships don’t realise that many issues can be resolved with the right kind of communication. The right kind of communication is when you keep all of your other issues afar from the current situation and address the problem in simple words. Remember not to use a statement that, you know, might offend your partner. Another important action that needs to come into play is to show support. Whether you agree at first or not. Have the patience and courtesy to listen to your partner, even if they are wrong, hear them out and then clear things. Most fights are usually just simple misunderstandings that develop into bigger and badder things.
1. COMMIT YOURSELF AGAIN
Reassure your partner that you still love them. No one in this world can tell your partner how much you love them. Not their friends, not your friends and not even this article. The only person who has the power to reassure this to your partner is YOU. Tell them that you are ready to let go of the things they did to you and ask for forgiveness for the things you did to them. There is no ego when you love someone. Don’t think that asking for forgiveness makes your point any less important. When you forgive your partner and ask for forgiveness, you are allowing them to let go of the things they have been holding on to.

In the end, try and find the spark and the love you both had in the beginning of your relationship. Trust me, it is not that hard if you put your mind to it. We have all been there, I have been there and I eventually learned the hard way so I know its easier said than done. But, Hey! It’s worth a try, your relationship is worth a try.
Have you been in a broken relationship?
If yes, how did you come out of it? Did you manage to fix it and bring it back to what it used to be? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

7 things men must know about women.
.
1. Women have this thing called feelings.
don’t hurt them.
2. They don’t wake up looking pretty. It
takes time and effort. So when they look
good, please Appreciate them.
3. It doesn’t matter who dumped who or
why. But Whenever they see an ex with
another girl, it always bothers them. Not
because thy’re not over you, but because
they know they used to be that girl.
4. They notice every little thing so be
careful what you say and do.
5. Their eyes are located in their heads.
Not on their chest or ****. So when you’re
not looking in her eyes, SHE WILL KN0W.
6. It’s not that they deliberately like being
late…it’s just a woman’s nature. They
would rather Arrive Late looking good and
panache than arriving early looking ugly
and unkempt. So never confront them
when they are late!
7. Finally, the words of a woman are
foolish but only the foolish man won’t
make the best of those words!

Every girl dreams that one day she will find
a boy that does these things for her. even
the smallest action can have the BIGGEST
impact in someones life.
• give her one of your t-shirts to sleep in.
• leave her cute text notes.
• kiss her in front of your friends.
• tell her she looks beautiful.
• look into her eyes when you talk to her.
• let her mess with your hair.
• touch her hair.
• just walk around with her.
• forgive her for her mistakes.
• look at her like she's the only girl you see.
• tickle her even when she says stop.
• hold her hand when you're around your
friends.
• when she starts swearing at you, tell her
you love her.
• let her fall asleep in your arms.
• get her mad, then kiss her.
• tease her and let her tease you back.
• stay up all night with her when she's sick.
• watch her favorite movie with her.
• kiss her forehead.
• give her the world.
• write her letters.
• let her wear your clothes.
• when she's sad, hang out with her.
• let her know she's important.
• let her take all the photos she wants of
you.
• kiss her in the pouring rain.
• when you fall in love with her, tell her.
• and when you tell her, love her like you've
never loved someone before...

If you are SINGLE and keep on saying "I DON'T TRUST MEN OR WOMEN!" Remember your mates are getting married every Saturday. Let me ask you, are they marrying spirits? Wise up!
2. If you are MARRIED and keep saying "I HATE THIS MARRIAGE!" OK! Is it not married people like you that are celebrating Gold, Silver and even Platinum jubilee?
3. If you keep on ranting, ''I'M LEAVING MY MAN, HE CHEATED ON ME!" Please, go to town and see all the fine, cute, ****, hot, hungry and desperate chicks waiting to ****** your man's money and property, they don't even mind sharing. Make it work, my friend!
4. Stop saying "I HATE MY JOB!" Look! 20 million people are jobless and can't even find any not to talk of keeping it! Do you want to join them?
5. You keep saying "I HATE WHERE I LIVE!" Oh please! tears Try visiting those locations that are flooding now, people leaving in tin/zinc shacks in winter or people living/sleeping under the bridge at night and you will be grateful to God that you even have a place to stay!
6. Some say "I AM TIRED OF THIS LIFE!" Well, go to the hospital and see people fighting for their lives! Go to the mortuary and take a look then tell me what you feel after that! The point is, be positive and believe in God, that's all that matters. Be Blessed.
CHERISH EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE: To realize the value of a sister/brother ask someone Who doesn't have one.
To realize the value of ten years: Ask a newly divorced couple.
To realize the value of four years: Ask a graduate.
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who Has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother Who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask a person Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person Who has survived an accident. Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have.
Remember. Hold on tight to the ones you love! And don't forget the one who sent it to you! Have a stress free moment in your life.
I hope you will reflect on this.
God Bless Us All and have a wonderful day .

On Saturday the 3rd. Me and my friend attended a birthday party with a gathering of about 40 people. My friend sat at the front seat for a selfish benefit and I sat at the back. A lady started distributing food. She started from the
back and unfortunately, it didn't get to
people sitting at the front. Another lady
started sharing the drinks, she started from the front but unfortunately he (my friend) had already moved to sit at the back with me. Again the drink didn't get to people at the back. He was so furious that he stood up to leave but then he saw three ladies each with a big bowl.
This time, he tried to be wise by sitting
in the middle. One of the ladies started the sharing from the front, the second lady started distributing from the back. The two ladies were sharing fried chicken .When they got to the middle where he was seated, it got finished AGAIN. Feeling so frustrated, he bent his head, putting his face in his hands but then the third lady tapped him and stretched her bowl for him to pick. He stretched and put his hands inside the bowl. Guess what was in the bowl? TOOTHPICKS. LOL
Moral Of The Story: Do not try to position yourself in life, allow God to put you in the right place otherwise you will wrongfully position yourself
for toothpicks. Have faith in HIM that he will put you in a right place in his rightful time.

Since they’re no longer popping up on your news feeds every time you check your Facebook, you eventually start forgetting about them. You will no longer publish photos, status updates, or instagrams with the back-of-the-mind hope that they will see what you’ve been up to and notice that you’ve been having fun without them.
You start focusing on yourself and having fun for yourself, instead of always trying to one-up each other in the battle of winning the breakup. After a breakup, we tend to remember all the good things about our exes and forget the bad things. This can keep us emotionally glued to them. Why not remember all the things that bugged you about him instead, like how he snored like a foghorn or made exotic animal sounds during ***? By remembering his annoying habits, it’ll be easier to let go.
Feeling good about yourself
The primary reason I hesitated to delete him was because I was holding onto the hope that he would one day become relevant, in any capacity, to my life again. So, even though we had broken up, I still refused to break up on the Internet.
After I deleted my ex, I no longer concentrated on why we broke up and what went wrong. I stopped missing him and was able to stop fixating on him. I felt better about myself because I started to see that I deserved better than him and what he gave me; I was happier and content.
Wondering if he cares
Once you stop obsessing over him, you will come to realize that you stop caring whether he cares about you or not. You are no longer a part of their life, and you will start to see that life is pretty good. You begin to understand the truth, that there’s nothing you could’ve done or said that would’ve kept him around. Even if you were the most perfect person in the whole world, he still would’ve found a reason to break up with you.
Moving on
Instead of being fixated over how much you still love him, how about turning that love within yourself? What do you love about yourself? Is it your humor, your intellect or your creativity? The more you love yourself, the less likely you’ll crave that love from your ex. Additionally, think about where you are in your life and what you want to accomplish.

Now’s the perfect opportunity, so get going on achieving those dreams! Meet new people, go travel, hang with your friends, do things you love; because life is too short to dwindle over why someone couldn’t see the best in you. Stop playing, “He loves me, he loves me not.” Play, “I love myself” instead. Use this experience to empower yourself to live better and love better

you might think that he wouldn’t be the best person to give marriage advice considering his 16-year long marriage came to an end. But very often, your worst mistakes become your best teachers. Since people are always in need of advice to better their marriage, let’s look at the wisdom this guy has to share;
1.Never stop dating
Now that you’ve been married doesn’t mean you’re allowed to take her for granted. Make her feel wanted. Keep doing what you did to win her over. If you love her, never fail to show it.
2.Love yourself first
Loving yourself will teach you how exactly you should love your better half. And only when you love yourself enough, can you focus on other things and people. However, she deserves a special place in your heart, which is exclusively for her, and you shouldn’t allow anyone to take her place.
3.Keep falling in love over and over again, with each other
Life changes constantly and people have to mould themselves accordingly. Change being the only constant, is a little difficult to deal with when it comes to people. You’re going to be a very different person from who you are now in a couple of years. Make her fall in love with the new you, if you want to keep her around.

4.Focus on the good
She isn’t going to be perfect, but neither are you. Don’t make it feel like you two are settling for each other. Rather concentrate on the good so much, that it outweighs all that you find bothersome. You only find what you go looking for. So if you’re nit picking for flaws, that’s all you’d ever be able to see. So choose wisely. There’s always a little good in everyone, and you fell in love with her for a reason; never forget that reason
5.Don’t try to change her
Loving someone requires you to embrace them for who they are, which means loving them for their imperfections as well. Wouldn’t you want the same? So would she. Accept her the way she is, and never be critical. And if you see any changes, support them as well.
6.You alone are responsible for your happiness
You choose how you feel. No one, not even your wife can control your feelings or emotions. And it’s definitely not her responsibility to make you happy. Find joy in the small things, and the happier you are yourself, the better you can do your part in the marriage.
7.You are also responsible for other emotions as well
If you’re ticked off by something that your wife says or does, then again, it’s not her fault. Find out what surfaced those feelings and the unresolved issues behind them. Don’t take it out on her at any cost.

8.Be there for her
Even more so when her life is messy. Being there for her does not mean that she needs you to fix everything. She’s as capable of dealing with a situation as you are. Trust her to figure it out, but be the support that she needs. Keep her from giving up and giving her the push she needs. Be attentive and patient.
9.Laugh
Life is only what we make of it. So take it easy. Find the humor in all the little things. Laugh with and at each other. It eases even the worst of situations. And if you can make her laugh, she isn’t going to lose interest in you all that easily.
10.Learn her language of love
As her life partner you should understand her language of love, without any excuses. Try to understand what you could do to make her feel loved. You might think that telling her you love her every day would do the job, but it might not be so fulfilling for her. Find out what works for her instead and give her that.

11.Be attentive
When you’re with her, shut out the rest of the world. She deserves your undivided attention. It shows how much you respect her and actually value everything that she has to share with you.
12. There’s only so much room for mistakes
You both are going to make mistakes. No need to panic. Don’t repeat those mistakes and try learning from each one of them. Also bear in mind that avoidable mistakes are a deal breaker. Don’t test her patience too often.

when i say i love you more
,i don't mean i love you more than you love me.i mean
i love you more than the bad ahead for us.
,i love you more than the fight we will ever had
,i love you more than the distance between us
,i love you more than the obstecle that could come betwwen us
,i love you the most

If you are SINGLE and keep on saying "I DON'T TRUST MEN OR WOMEN!" Remember your mates are getting married every Saturday. Let me ask you, are they marrying spirits? Wise up!
2. If you are MARRIED and keep saying "I HATE THIS MARRIAGE!" OK! Is it not married people like you that are celebrating Gold, Silver and even Platinum jubilee?
3. If you keep on ranting, ''I'M LEAVING MY MAN, HE CHEATED ON ME!" Please, go to town and see all the fine, cute, ****, hot, hungry and desperate chicks waiting to ****** your man's money and property, they don't even mind sharing. Make it work, my friend!
4. Stop saying "I HATE MY JOB!" Look! 20 million people are jobless and can't even find any not to talk of keeping it! Do you want to join them?
5. You keep saying "I HATE WHERE I LIVE!" Oh please! tears Try visiting those locations that are flooding now, people leaving in tin/zinc shacks in winter or people living/sleeping under the bridge at night and you will be grateful to God that you even have a place to stay!
6. Some say "I AM TIRED OF THIS LIFE!" Well, go to the hospital and see people fighting for their lives! Go to the mortuary and take a look then tell me what you feel after that! The point is, be positive and believe in God, that's all that matters. Be Blessed.
CHERISH EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE: To realize the value of a sister/brother ask someone Who doesn't have one.
To realize the value of ten years: Ask a newly divorced couple.
To realize the value of four years: Ask a graduate.
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who Has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother Who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask a person Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person Who has survived an accident. Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have.
Remember. Hold on tight to the ones you love! And don't forget the one who sent it to you! Have a stress free moment in your life.
I hope you will reflect on this.
God Bless Us All and have a wonderful day

marriage is definitively one of the biggest decisions you can take in life. There are a million questions in our heads when we start thinking about marriage. “Can I spend the rest of my life with this person?”, “Am I going to be happy ten years down the road with this person?”, “Is this really a good decision or am I rushing it?” and so on. It could get pretty scary even for the strongest of couples because it’s real life, this isn’t a movie. Most couples get through with it happily, though, but I’ve seen a few relationships turn completely upside down after trying the knot.

Marriage is also a lot about age. I’ve seen people get married as early as 22 and I’ve also seen people get married after their thirties. So here’s a little quiz for all of you.

Sometimes it’s better to move on than to hold on to a person who doesn’t understand you. Sometimes your absence will teach what your presence cannot...
Hey you, Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work. You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.
I’ll be real with you, sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without. You have got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.
Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it you. And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they’re not that person anymore. And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME
It is better to be alone and be happy than to be in a miserable relationship...
Whoever sees you as an option doesn't deserve to be a priority in your life, you call him honey but he treats you like a monkey, He is your everything but you are nothing to him, you are doing everything to make it work, but he keeps thinking you are desperate and turns all your efforts to weakness...
Never keep awake thinking
about someone who is
deeply sleeping with
someone else.
Never stay a minute
thinking about someone who cant spend a
second
thinking about you.
Leave that person who
takes your love for granted
and doesnt love you back
the way you do,
Love should be balanced
not based one side.
Its better to be single than
being in an ugly
relationship that will make
you cry forever.
move on.

Ladies have you ever heard these statements,
if you love me then let me sleep with you
because a men has some needs. Some guys will
even tell you that if you can't sleep with him,
he will go and sleep with someone else or
dump you. My advice is, Your body is not a
temperature that has to be tested for true
love. Once they are done with you, they will
find another target because premarital *** is
like a bank account, once someone withdraws,
they start loosing some interests. In some
cases premarital *** is like magic, your
boyfriend disappears and a baby appears. Hear
me my daughters on this, WHAT IS IN-BETWEEN
YOUR LEGS can not be traded for anything and
it has to be kept sacred for the right time and
the right person. If you had made mistakes,
you can make corrections and do the right
thing, simply because it has happened, it
doesn't mean that it has to keep happening.
It is better to be dumped and walk away with
your dignity and respect. TRUE LOVE WAITS

dear guys dont flip out when your girl wonders who your with or what your doin,it means she cares and she dont want to loose you to someone else.

dont let loneliness drive you back into the arms of someone who you know doesnt care about you be careful of what you choose .

I know sometimes you feel like giving up. Every new day there’s seems to be no change in your life. All the troubles of your heart and worries keep on worsening! You wonder why everything is happening to you. You keep on asking yourself why you’re not lucky like other people. You keep on praying to God but so far He hasn’t answered your prayers. Now you have started losing hope. You now think that maybe you were meant to be like that or maybe somebody cursed you. But I tell you what my friend? You weren’t meant to be like that and you weren’t cursed. God is silent but He watches you day and night. He listens to your prayers and He has something special for you. Just stay strong, focused, and hardworking and keep praying to God. Bear it in your minds that you’re not alone in that hard situation, we are all in the same boat. So don’t give up my dear friend. Your time is coming soon.

Don’t Break Her Heart
2. Don’t Pretend You Love Her
3. Don’t Tell Her She Is Ugly
4. Don’t Compare Her To Your Ex
5. Don’t Take Her Love For
Granted
6. Don’t Shout On Her
7. Don’t Beat Her
8. Never Cheat On Her
9. Don’t Disrespect Her
10. Don’t Waste Her Time If You
Will Not Marry Her
11. Don’t Make Her Break Her
Decision Of “NO *** BEFORE
MARRIAGE”
12. Don’t Make Her Feel Unloved
13. Don’t **** Her
14. Never Fail To Say She Is
Beautiful
15. Don’t Disgrace Her In The
Public
16. Don’t impregnate Her And
Deny it
17. Don’t Expose Her Secrets To
Your Friends And Family
18. Don’t Lie To Her
19. Don’t Correct Her In The
Public
20. Don’t Hate Her Family
21. Don’t Treat Her Like Your
Housemaid
22. Don’t Make Promises You
Can’t Keep
23. Never Destroy Her
How many agree with me ?..

I will never ask you not to have *** for money,
clothes,
cosmetics and cars. Keep f#cking and *******
every D# you see, continue jumping from one
man
to the other.
keep the names of all the hotels you've slept in
your memory, protea hotel, sheraton hotel e.t.c.
When the total number of men you have had ***
with is more than your age,i.e you are 25yrs,and
you have had *** with 30 different men.
you can go ahead doing all those ******* of D#
because you want
to be latest and happening babe in town, you
want to use the latest mobile phones or you
want to wear the lastest clothes in vogue. Its
none of my business and I have no issue with
what you are
doing.
But the only issue I will be having with you is
when you dear open your mouth and say a man
should love you for who you are (probably when
you are moving close to your
expired period).I.e when you have shared all your
body to different men and you have notin let
again
I believe any man who will marry you must have
done something crazy or terrible in the past to
have get hooked with you.
You might even start
warming yourself up by going to church now
bcos you hv lost your womb in the process after
you must
have aborted so many babies, and you are
obviously looking for a miracle to happen...
Until you look into your future, you will never
realize the consequences of your presence
actions..
Am expecting some ladies to hate me now
because the
TRUTH is bitter

.
1. You wake up early morning but you cant
send
even a good morning message to your
lover trust me you are just pretending there is
no
love between you too.
2. You are in the same country you can take a
week without hearing the voice of the so called
lover... My dear there is no love
between two of you.
3. Your lover sends you a message but you read
without replying, instead of hurting his/her
feeling
be open and tell him/her that you don't love
her/
him anymore.
4. You organise to meet but everytime you are
saying you are busy. Why don't you tell him/her
the truth that you don't love her/
him.
5. When you meet you cant even give him her
a
hug why do you pretend that you in love.
6. Your phone is always busy whenever your
lover
calls. Why don't you tell him/her the truth that
you
don't love her/him.
7. You cant spare time for your lover but you
spare time for other people. Why don't you be
open to him/her that you don't love her him.
8. You've been dating for years without
knowing if
it's leading to marriage or not, tell him/her the
truth and stop wasting someone's time.
9. Feelings are so painful if you don't love that
person. Stop playing with his/her feelings. Be
open and say you don't love her/
him.
10. Your lover's heart is not a doll to be played
with. Be open and tell him/her that you don't
love
him/ her anymore

VERY IMPORTANT ADVICE TO LADIES: 1. Note that there are many guys out there who just want to use and dump you. Don't just accept a guy because he is a fine boy. I know that some of you girls easily fall for handsome guys. The devil is also handsome. So be careful. 2. I also know that you ladies can easily be deceived with sweet words and sweet lies. You ought to be wise. Do not allow sweet words move you. Don't beleive a guy's sweet words until he proves it to you beyond reasonable doubt. 3. Be very careful if a guy says: "I love you, I cannot do without you", "I will die for u", "I Can't survive without you". Those words are not true. NO GUY CAN DIE FOR YOU IN THIS OUR PRESENT GENERATION. It is a fact. Don't let anyone deceive you. 4. Don't open your legs because he said he loves you. Don't open your legs because he gave you a ring. Don't open your legs because he promise to marry you. 5. Respect your body. Your body is more precious than money. Don't trade your body for money. 6. Use your brain to make money. Don't use your ***** and *** organs to make money. Use your hands and brains. 7. Dating and relationship is NOT because of ***. If he cannot wait till wedding night, let him go. God will provide a real man for you. 8. I KNOW THAT SOME GUYS WILL BE ANGRY WITH ME OVER THIS POST. But I will keep saying the truth to save innocent souls.

-She was a ******
-She was in love with God
-She was performing very good in her studies
-She wanted to be a well known Business woman
-be in a happy marriage
-She was a quiet n humble lady
-She was a good example in here society
Then this is how the trouble began..
-A boy approached her and proposed her
-He charmed her
-He promised her the world
-He said he can jump over the bridge for her
-He even lied that he can die for her
-She ran out of words
-She smiled like an angel because it was her first time, getting proposed she agreed
When days goesby
-He broke her virginity
-He impregnated her
-He ran away n nowhere to be found
-She drop out at school
-She ran out at home
-She was now a bad example at her society
-She gave birth to a fatherless child
-She dumped the child at the nearby river
-She killed herself
-It was over for her
HER DREAMS WERE SHATTERED
Moral Advice!
>> Don't let someone ruin your dreams just because of the word "LOVE". Before taking actions just think of the Outcomes and Consequences... ‪#‎BeWise‬ ‪#‎KnowWhatYou_Want‬